BUKOLA SOGBUYI’s Brave Fight for Life.

 
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Chronicles of an astonishing resilience of a vivacious lady who practically walks in the shadow of death.

There was nothing about Bukola Sogbuyi’s appearance to betray her health condition. Looking radiant, chubby and peaceful, it was hard for me to believe that she was a sickle-cell carrier. Unlike the visible signs that usually accompany carriers of the sickle-cell disease such as the yellow colouring of the eyes or fragility, Bukola seems the opposite. Simply put, she is hyperactive. Sickle-cell disease is a recessive genetic blood disorder which prevents the easy flow of blood into the blood vessels causing pain and organ damage which could lead to risk of death or infection. As she settled down for the interview, I couldn’t help but admire her gait and composure.
 

Background
Being the only child of her parents,  Bukola Sogbuyi, an indigene of Lagos State, lived most of her childhood in London with her mother. She was among the recently passed out NYSC Batch C Corpers after graduating from the University of California with a B.A in Communication Studies. She also holds a Master degree in Feminism Theories and Organisational Communication.

Bukola grew up with the belief that she was as healthy as any other child until she was six years old. The doctors had told her parents when she was born that her genotype was AS but when she had her first crisis at the age of six, her parents were forced to carry out more tests which revealed that she was a sickle-cell carrier. From there on, it has been one challenge or the other. Her once perfect life suddenly came to a grinding halt as her parents try to keep their baby alive. “I would be asked not to play or dance at social events because of my health but inwardly I was dying to partake in those activities. Sometimes I break the rules, but I usually have to face the consequences of such actions.”

Challenges
Losing her mum in a plane crash at the age of 15 was a big challenge to Bukola who was closer to her mother and lived with her most of her childhood days. “It was one of my greatest challenges but she had taught me how to be independent and a survivor at an early age.  With time, I got over it, moved on and do what I know how to do best; embracing life.”

Living alone in the States, Bukola had to learn how to take care of herself. “With mum gone, I have to learn how to survive. I will have a crisis and there will be no one to drive me to the hospital. With my last strength, I will drive to the hospital all by myself. When I get to the gate or door of the hospital, I will just collapse.”

Apart from losing her mother, Bukola has been faced with rejection as a result of her health status. “I have had many people not loving me because I’m a sickle-cell carrier.” She quickly recounted her ex-boyfriend mother’s words to her when she discovered Bukola’s state of health: “I don’t want you to marry my son because if you die young, he will be a young widower.”
Sadly, the young man heeded to his mother’s words and broke up with her.  How she handled that, this is what she had to say:  “I have to respect his decision, he has to listen to his mum but I do know that being a sickle-cell carrier does not make me less of a human being. I also have equal rights as any other human being”

In school, she was asked to repeat a paper because of her health condition. She had missed attendance of the paper and the professor had insisted she spends one extra year despite the fact that  she passed the paper. However, her course mates were not happy about the professor’s decision and carried out a protestation on her behalf. “I still retook the paper though but the professor was reprimanded.”
After excelling in the first interview for a job as Customer Service Personnel in an organisation, Bukola was again turned down when the management discovered that she was living with sickle-cell.

Coping with Sickle Cell
Despite the stigmatization carriers of sickle-cell disease face, Bukola didn’t wallow in self-pity,  rather she is motivated. “I understand the psychological downside of this ailment so I try as much as I can to motivate others not to lose hope. I try to build a social platform where I can reach out to my friends and give them a reason to stay positive. After all, people live with HIV and yet they get married and have children, why give up on yourself?”
Though a bit limited in her activities, the budding energy in her won’t let her keep to conventional rules on managing her health such as non-exposure to mosquitoes and cold weather. “I lived in the USA where there is winter, what am I supposed to do then? Hide? I have been to camp and other outdoor activities at night and I don’t fall sick. I only know when to stop but I don’t allow these limitations to stop me from enjoying life.”
“My immediate family had been of great support to me but my friends know me better. I love being independent so I hardly ask for help. It happens on rare occasions.”

Financial Support
Before the Walk4Life campaign became a reality, Bukola had to seek for financial assistance. “It was difficult getting assistance from corporate bodies because of the way NGOs has been abused in Nigeria. I had no choice than to depend on my monthly NYSC allowance and ask family members for support. All in all, we were able to carry out the programme and I’m glad. We hope to get sponsors for this year’s edition which is slated for December.”